Updated: Apr 24
What inspired me to write this article?
My own journey to the self where I found my true happiness and love lie in a person whom I had married 12 years ago. It didn’t happen overnight. It took 12 years for me to understand this strong realization which I have been avoiding and eluding unknowingly and unintentionally.
The realization happened through profound personal experiences and upheavals. What I realized, I just wanted to share with you so that it might help you in the best possible way.
We live the same story every day - running the household and doing the same chores daily. But what if something different happens and changes your life.
Have you ever experienced such phenomena?
Marriage is an all-time wonder. The life that we live before marriage is a completely different ball game and we all experience the same. But what is that which makes some marriages a wonderful union and an ideal companionship?
Similarly, life is an adventurous journey that unfolds new directions and new destinations at each step. The journey from employment to entrepreneurship is a complete roller-coaster.
Which is that ingredient of life which makes this transformation, enriching and empowering one?
Where do the answers to these seemingly complex puzzles of life lie?
Since ages, we have been trying to find solutions to our daily rut of problems but they still remain elusive as well as exclusive. What is that distinguishes a successful marriage or life from an unsuccessful one? It is how we respond and not react to the situation. In this era of instant coffee solutions, we try to implement permanent solutions to temporary situations without thinking much about the cause and the effect.
We are indeed blessed that we are born as humans. We can’t only experience these wonderful emotions but can also express them more profoundly and prudently. but is it so easy? Probably no, because we witness a plethora of emotions during our lifetimes, and completely unequipped with right wisdom and knowledge, we don’t know how to channelize them for a higher good and higher purpose.
Emotions define, decide, and design our actions and goals. In the heat of a strong emotional surge, we execute our actions without much thinking and anticipation. Actions should be the outcome of deep deliberation and ardent thought process. But what we generally do, we outplay our actions because of strong emotional bondage and baggage.
What I have experienced and what I feel is that emotions should be the right anchors and guided spirited force behind every action. But we tend to overlook it and even find it very difficult to overcome certain emotional hazards. If I take certain instances from my own life’s journey, I can easily conclude that because of certain overpowering and over-pouring emotional currents, I have messed up many occasions and events in my life. If I would have taken a ponderous pause and calculated calm at the right moment, certain disturbing and debilitating situations would have surely been avoided. but the truth is we learn through mistakes only.
There are many occasions in our life where we have been wronged and hurt by others. Sometimes we feel, we have hit the rock bottom in our lives and especially in that particular relationship. Our heart is filled with agony, hatred, and resentment. We tend to live by those emotions throughout our lives without thinking much about the repercussions and the damage they will do to us both at the physiological as well as the visceral level. This is a big dilemma as well as irony. Despite so much of spiritual knowledge and scientific advancement, we completely ignore the awareness and prefer to live the same way.
Emotions are good healers too. But how much do we realize and understand depends on all upon our eagerness and willingness to learn and liberate those emotions in the right way and in the right perspective with the right mindset?
That only happens when we have a spiritual guru present in our life. There must be somebody in our life who can hold our hand, guide us to the path of spiritual enlightenment and empowerment.
This is exactly what I experienced when I found my guru in my husband, Chetan. It wasn’t easy as the wife in me used to overpower the follower in me. But as we moved ahead in our journey together, our relationship grew stronger and nobler. What I had learned from him is the art of not giving up.
Ours was an arranged marriage and we were complete strangers to each other. We both are poles apart when it comes to certain likes and dislikes. The marital journey has its own shares of ups and downs and it is these experiences that make or break a person. For me initially, it wasn’t easy as it is difficult for everyone to adjust to a new environment. Sometimes some lessons are meant to be learned the hard way.
Though the journey continues but sometimes, it leaves very strong imprints on your mind. Certain events in your life leave you baffled and diffused but life doesn’t stop. some wounds are so deep that they take a good time to heal. But in the process of nurturing them, you tend to lose those precious moments of your life which you had always craved and yearned for. The irony is time never comes back, but if you are empowered and self-realized, then only you can again re-create those magical moments in your life which you had lost in that agony and heat of the moment.
When Chetan bid a final goodbye to his lucrative corporate career and decided to don the mantle of an entrepreneur, it was a difficult decision for me to digest and the entire family was opposed to it. He stuck to his decision with a firm mind, those who challenged his strong will and determination couldn’t stand on their stand any longer. It was me who was his toughest battle, but he didn’t give up. That is what is the true essence and spirit of entrepreneurship. He kept on motivating and pushing me to be the part of his entrepreneurial journey which I fondly hesitated and resisted.
As the saying goes, there is always a master plan which is bigger than your plan. His consistent efforts on me, I rediscovered my love for writing and reading. He has a deep knack in finding the hidden talent or potential of the people and then nurturing it to its peak.
My foray into writing began with quotes and articles. With god’s grace, those were liked and appreciated by the like-minded souls and it boosted my confidence in me and I found me within me. All thanks and heartfelt gratitude to my better half for letting me discover my best part. What I can say at last is how with his dedication, selflessness, and profound wisdom, the anguish within me turned into gratitude.
What I have realized from my personal journey of life is that:
Every day is a god’s gift and that gift is the most precious. Waking up every day and witnessing a new sunrise each morning makes us realize that after every dark hour, there is light.
Every day won’t be perfect but focusing on what we are grateful for tends to wash away negativity and infuse positivity.
The attitude of gratitude redefines our journey of life. It makes the journey of life more abundant, fulfilling, and gratifying.
If we develop the habit to express gratitude to each and every person who is important in our life, our life will become worthier and more meaningful.
It’s a lifestyle and mindset choice that will drastically change your life and your business as an entrepreneur.
If we follow this principle of ‘count your blessings first’, our life will change to altogether a new level. Instead of cribbing and complaining, if we focus on thanking nature, we will make a sea change in our life.
We are the creators of our life; the creators of our journey, our dreams, and our destiny. If we focus on the goodness inherited in every single aspect of our life, we can change the course of our life journey, thereby changing our destiny.
Life is indeed beautiful, but with your love and gratitude towards others, you can make it more adorable. It is more blissful when you conquer and win over the demons within.
About Dr Gazal Chetan Bansal
Founder and CEO, Life Coach and Speaker, Dr. Gazal is a Doctorate in Political Science, UGC (JRF), a Gold Medalist, Certified ISO 22000 Lead Auditor, a Licensed Practitioner of NLP from The Society of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (TM) & a Pranic Healer.
As a spiritual evangelist and a practical thinker, she is a radical enthusiast and a firm believer in the philosophy of conceptual pragmatism, logical reasoning, and the spiritual energy matrix.
She is a staunch believer of the fact that before you speak, your energy speaks.