Updated: Sep 10, 2019
‘Child is the father of man’, we all have heard about this proverb since our childhood. it became a profound reality when my son taught me the biggest lesson of life.
Some lessons are meant to be learn the hard way, and some are specially designed through a master plan.
Me and my elder son, Shreyas are just quite the opposite when it comes to certain things and we love to play the role of siblings more often rather than the usual roles of a doting mother and a pampered son. Though we both love each other unconditionally, we seldom agree on many things. He is on the verge of being an adolescent and I often don the mantle of a strict and disciplined mother.
It is my husband who plays a mediator between us and calls for a ceasefire when he sees the possibility of the eruption of a third world war between an agonized mom and adamant son. But this time something strange happened. Though initially, I was not agreeing to what Shreyas wanted to do but suddenly something stopped me from inside and persuaded me to let him do what he wants to do. It was a noble cause and Shreyas was completely charged up to carry it out at any cost without any inhibition and prejudice. Now you must be wondering what the reason was and why I was reluctant and what was the cause he wanted to pursue with the doctrine of total dedication.
His school, Akshara International has organized an event to collect money for the rehabilitation of Kerala flood victims and shreyas wanted to contribute the most. So, he wanted to go door to door and collect the funds but somehow, I wasn’t interested.
I was bitten by the biggest bug that is, sabse bada rog, kya kahenge log. but seeing his enthusiasm and energy, I dissuaded myself from being a roadblock in his path. I was quite astonished when he said why should I send a wrong signal to the universe that people won’t pay for such a noble cause. I read in ‘’The Secret”, the book by Rhonda Byrne that ‘Thought become Things’ and ‘Ask and it is Given’. I was just flabbergasted to listen to all this from him.
He took one bag, one register, and a few other things and with great confidence, courage and conviction set out on his mission. He went to near about 800 homes in the near vicinity, all by himself with full faith without an inch of doubt in his pocket. and lo, people also responded to him with the same energy, love, and belief.
He alone collected a whopping sum of Rupees 12000/- without any help and guidance. Heartfelt gratitude to all those noble souls who contributed with their overwhelming hearts and kind intentions. Moreover, they had a listening heart and patient ear to understand the emotions and appreciate the efforts of a small child.
With gleaming eyes and tears in them, he confided in me that, mom if I can do this, I can do anything. Those were the words which shook my being and taught me the biggest lesson which I was completely avoiding and eluding in my life.
The lesson I learned was, “to achieve your dreams you have to be fearless and courageous like a child who hasn’t let his mind govern his soul and be a slave to it. The mind is a subtle instrument of the soul and we are too conditioned by our mental and societal patterns that we don’t listen to what our heart and what our soul says.”
This beautiful incidence in my life opened many doors of self-realization and self-enhancement which I am sure will embark a new journey in my life. With an overwhelming and grateful heart, I want to share some of my realizations with you:
1. Our children are not our prized possessions, they are the unique souls and every soul has a different purpose to achieve.
2. Your children have come through you, they are not your property. Like you, they are distinct individuals with their own set of likes and dislikes.
3. As a parent, give them help, able guidance, and protection to the best of your ability, but even more important, give them space-space to be themselves.
4. The more expectations you have of how their life should unfold, the more misery it creates. Let them be their natural best and enjoy and explore the world.
5. According to our perception what is a mistake, may be exactly what our children need to do or experience for their holistic growth in life.
6. Let them evolve as human beings through their own rendezvous, rehearsals, and realisations.
7. Unnecessary assumptions, expectations cause uneasiness and unhappiness in the relationships, making them unnatural and burdensome which otherwise should be genuine, generous and giving.
8. The beauty of the parent-child relationship lies in acceptance which is free from any delusion, illusion or seclusion.
9. Let your children grow into blooming flowers spreading the fragrance of love, hope, and tranquility wherever they go. Nurture their hidden talents with a listening heart and a patient ear.
10.Bless them every moment of their life so that they can be the true anchors of peace, prosperity, and progress.
With this small write-up, I wanted to convey my simple message to the beautiful people out there who love their children unapologetically, unconditionally and wholeheartedly.
Lets rediscover, rekindle and relive the childhood within us.
A child is the best learner, best reformer and best student as he is the most inquisitive, completely unbiased, and free from all vices. He is the purest form of eternity crafted into uniqueness and unambiguity by the universal intelligence.
Let’s pledge to love, respect and salute that child within him. I am pleased to share the definition of the word child.
C – Courageous enough to accept one’s weaknesses and applaud others achievements and talents.
H – Happiest enough to live a life full of possibilities and positivities both physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.
I – Instantaneous enough to acknowledge one’s follies and ignited enough to foster any improvement and innovation.
L – Lovable enough to love thyself and all others.
D – Decisive enough to live a life peacefully without application of much thought, prejudices and superstitions…
Lots of love and blessings to divine child shreyas who made me realize the true worth of self and how strong determination loaded with honest intentions yield beautiful results.
All gratitude and kudos to my husband, Chetan Bansal for directing, guiding and maneuvering shreyas to unleash his true potential and let him do what he loves to do.
About Dr. Gazal Goyal Bansal
Founder and CEO, Life Coach and Speaker, Dr. Gazal Bansal is a
Doctorate in Political Science, UGC (JRF), a Gold Medalist, Certified ISO 22000 Lead Auditor, a Licensed Practitioner of NLP from The Society of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (TM) & a Pranic Healer.
As a spiritual evangelist and a practical thinker, she is a radical enthusiast and a firm believer in the philosophy of conceptual pragmatism, logical reasoning, and the spiritual energy matrix. She is a staunch believer of the fact that before you speak, your energy speaks.